Do any of you have needy friends? Those ones that if you don't give your 100% attention and they get whiny and pouty? I have one of those friends. I reallly enjoy spending time with this friend and we have a good time. But because of her attitude, sometimes I don't want to see her. At one of the singles dances, I stepped out to talk to a friend, but my friend acted really cold towards me afterwards, all because I stepped out without her. She frequently tries to make me feel guilty for how busy I am.
Tonight, we had plans to spend some good quality girl time watching Castle and eating junk food. She texted me at 2:30 p.m. while I was at a funeral to find out what the plan was for tonight. I called her when I could and she asked if we were going to dinner. I informed her that I had to drive a friend to the grocery store right then and some time that evening I had to do laundry, clean my apartment, and write Valentines. Maybe we could watch Castle at my house while I cleaned. If she didn't want to come to my place, then we'd have to hang out later in the evening. We decided that I would call when I got back from the store and figure out what to do.
I got a text before I got back from the store that said, "So you sound busy do you just want to not hang out tonight?" This is not the first time she has texted me or said something along those lines. Whenever she says this, I get the feeling that she is saying, "Are you too busy to hang out with me? Do you even really want to be with me?" I can hear the hurt and frustration in her voice. It mostly irritates me. I am trying to tell her what my plans are to coordinate with her to see what time we are meeting up. She acts like I am trying to blow her off. In the end, I just feel like saying, "Now look, you asked me to hang out. I agreed. Stop acting like I'm trying to get out of spending time with you. If you have changed your mind, stop blaming me in an effort to help you find an excuse to cancel."
I called my friend when I got back from the store and asked what the plan was for the evening. She told me, "Well you sound too busy to hang out tonight." Maybe I was a little irritated because I said, "Well...I'm usually busy. I don't think that's going to change anytime soon. What time did you want to hang out?" She said that she had a dinner date with a friend. She also hinted that maybe I didn't really want to hang out. I said that I had agreed to hang out and I was willing to. So if she didn't really want to hang out she would call me after dinner.
